By: Arielle Aquino
I started The Sensualist as a way to help all of us reconnect with ourselves.
As I was thinking about what this brand was about, sexuality was a huge part of it but it wasn’t the whole picture. Feeling confident in yourself is larger than just feeling sexy or having great sex. It begins with connection to your senses.
Sensuality is the core of sexuality; but it is also the unique way you carry yourself, how you feel inside your body, the way you interact with the world around you, the decisions you make, your gut instinct, the reason people are drawn to you, and how you express yourself. Sensuality is your human experience.
Sensuality can be experienced in everything. It is the feeling of a luxurious fabric on your skin, a scented candle filling your home with a relaxing fragrance, the taste of your lover’s lips… It is found in the beauty of nature, the time you take to shut off your devices and connect with yourself, the little luxuries that make you feel calm and happy.
For me, I feel connected to my sensuality when I am surrounded by the raw beauty of nature, when I engage in self-pleasure, massage a rich cream all over my body, or wear a beautiful piece of clothing a friend has made with love. When I am feeling stuck, low on energy or self-conscious; I move my body, journal, eat a decadent piece of chocolate or light a candle and meditate. These are the moments for me; to reconnect with myself and honor my body and soul.
It is only through connection with my sensuality that I have been able to step into my sexual power. Before I embarked on this journey, before I even considered what sensuality was; I felt numb to sex. I was disconnected from my sexual essence. When I went looking for tools to help me tap into my sexuality, I was mostly uninspired. What I found were a lot of toys touting the quickest way to your Best. Orgasm. Ever. I gave them a shot - and it felt great! After a while though, I was left feeling empty. It all became routine and most of all; while I enjoyed a pleasurable physical sensation, I couldn’t feel the connection to my soul, my essence, my heart - whatever you want to call it.
I don’t have it all figured out. I feel strong and other days I feel weak. We are all on an an-ever evolving journey and I accept the ups and downs. The Sensualist is a celebration of that journey, and we seek to provide the tools to help you on yours.
I am thrilled to be launching this brand during this time in history. Out of darkness there is light and we are here to bring joy to sensuality. I am ready to recognize the beauty that exists in everything and everyone. I hope The Sensualist will inspire you to see that as well. There is light in you, even if it has faded to a flicker. Let’s burn it brighter together.
Photo by Stephen Rodan